To Date or Not To Date
- Mae Pulsipher
- Aug 26, 2018
- 2 min read
It is a common belief that once you get the ring the dating is over. You’ve already found your mate, you’re running around like a crazy person planning a wedding, and dating is only for single people, right? Wrong! It is even more important to keep dating your spouse once you get married. Dating your spouse is like watering the seed of the relationship to help it continue to grow big and strong. Without the dating, once your kids are grown and out of the house you’ll look at your spouse and not know who the stranger you’re living with is.
We teach our youth that dating is to help them find their future spouse so why then would you want to stop dating them? They are supposed to be one of your best friends and you should want to nurture your relationship and keep it alive. A blog called The Dating Divas has so many great ideas for dates. One of the biggest excuses for not dating your spouse, especially after kids come, is that you’re too busy or you can’t afford a babysitter. These date ideas are easy, fun, and can be done after you’ve put your little ones to bed. No babysitter required.
Another excuse for not dating your spouse is that you don’t know what to do. For this past Christmas, my sweet husband made me a huge deck of cards (he used a deck and a half) with different date ideas stuck on them. It took him awhile to come up with a lot of different ideas initially, but now it’s a life saver. If we want to do more than dinner and a movie, we shuffle the cards and pick something that is within the budge we want to spend. The thinking is done for us!
When we cherish something, we take care of it. We should really cherish our marriage and if we do, we’re going to take care of it. Dating is one of the many ways to deepen our relationship with our spouse.
References:
Holman, T. B. & Poulson, F. and others (2016). The abcs of successful romantic development: Meeting, dating and choosing an eternal companion. In A. J. Hawkins, D. C. Dollahite, & T. W. Draper (Eds.), Successful marriages and families: Proclamation principles and research perspectives (pp. 38-45). Provo: Brigham Young University.
Dating Divas site: https://www.thedatingdivas.com/tag/date-ideas/
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